The Truth About Honesty


Q: Can I teach my toddler about “Honesty?” A: Let’s talk about the unique way that a toddler learns. They are pretty concrete thinkers and learn by repetition and example. A child between the ages of 15 months and three years has a very concrete understanding of the world around them. Because actual toddlers are concrete thinkers, the abstract nature of honesty is a difficult concept for them to grasp. They typically function based on how they “feel” – happy, sad, confused. It is typically at preschool age, around four years (although all children progress a bit differently) that a child can appreciate the difference between a “lie” and the “truth.” However, we can still use repetition and example to help set the groundwork for our toddlers. We mentioned that toddlers learn by example and are more likely to associate things with how they “feel.” That means that the best way to set the groundwork for honesty is to be a trustworthy parent. It helps toddlers to feel ‘safe.’ Do what you say you will do – even when in the midst of discipline. If you say that your toddler will have simmer time if they scream at the top of their lungs – then put them in simmer time. Show yourself to be trustworthy. In the same way, if you say that you will get ice cream after dinner, then get ice cream after dinner. The best way to communicate honesty to your toddler is to “Let your “yes” be “yes” and your “no” be “no.” This is a powerful tool in setting up a child’s understanding of honesty. A parent who makes

The Truth About Honesty2019-08-20T14:49:29-04:00

Three Household Rules


(Excerpt from the Moms on Call Toddler Book) Often in our households, we have so many rules that the toddler cannot remember and categorize them all. Don’t touch the stove. Don’t disturb anyone when they are on the phone. Don’t run into the road. Don’t throw your toys. Don’t pee in the Home Depot parking lot. (And just for parents of boys like ours) Don’t hit your own self in your own head with your own foot! (Long car ride—enough said.) There are just too many rules. We can keep track, but they cannot. They are just trying to sort out a few colors and put together a sentence! So we want to narrow the list to three rules that they can understand and those are: Obey Daddy and Mommy Do not hurt yourself Do not hurt others This is simple and all of the other rules can fit into one of these categories. The time that we place this in the heart of our child is right before bed or what we like to call “between awake and asleep.” We like to say it like this: “We have three rules in this house and they are: Obey Daddy and Mommy, do not hurt yourself and do not hurt others because we are Walkers and Walkers are good to people.” Insert your own name into that scenario and choose a character trait that defines your family. Go over these rules each night, right before bed. This is not the time to go over the history of good behavior, just the three household rules, short and simple.  And before you know it, you have placed

Three Household Rules2019-08-20T14:50:24-04:00